Tis the season for big girls all over to begin stressing
over summer clothes, bathing suits, beach outings, pool parties, last years’
summer clothes not fitting etc. There is something terribly stressful about the
oncoming of summer for some people. That sweater you hid under all winter
cannot be worn in 30 degree weather. It’s a time when you can’t get away with
the usual tricks made convenient by the cooler weather. The loss of being able
to conceal yourself. It can send some people into panic mode and into a crash
diet regime to get rid of that winter bulge. I think every big girl out there
has tried a fad/crash diet. Unfortunately the lesson has not been learned that
when you do that, 99% of the time you gain it back, plus some extra friends. I
am not going to start giving advice on diets, as I do not plan on dieting any
time soon. I am just going to say that yes summer is a season where we are a
bit more exposed than usual. My advice to you is to try to love yourself and
your assets. Draw on what you find appealing about yourself. If you cannot
think of anything, ask a friend what your best features are. I’m sure you have
at least one or two! Take what you like about yourself and make that your
feature, if it’s your chest, then accentuate your chest (while keeping it
tasteful). I never used to like myself and always covered up in the summer. One
summer I wore cardigans every day to cover myself up. Summer was torture that
year. The only person who can make you feel better about yourself is you. Do
not fish for compliments or rely on others to give you feedback. You have to do
it yourself. You need to see that you aren’t as bad as you think, you are
beautiful in your own way. The more you see it, the more you believe it, the
more it will emanate from you. The way you carry yourself is a direct
correlation on how you feel about yourself. Even if you start today and find
something you like about yourself, it’s a small but good start. Maybe it’s your
lips, eyes, legs etc. Just use it as a building block and keep going. Don’t let
summer get to you, conquer it and have a good time, rather than always hiding
yourself away.